How to decide that we need professional help?

It is perfectly understandable that you want to work through the challenges or find solutions to the problems that arise from your marriage or relationship. What’s broken can be fixed and you do not want to let go of something that has taken so long to nurture and flourish. Seeking counseling or guidance in order to reinforce and preserve your bonds is a commendable trait that requires great courage, an act worthy of admiration. Remember that you are not in this fight alone and there is no shame in asking for help.