There are some past unresolved issues which are hampering our relationship. We are not able to figure out how to overpass this.

The key to fixing unresolved issues is the will to engage in effective communication. Although communication is often said to be a driving component in any successful relationship, it often takes the back seat when the powers of ego and defensiveness come into play. However, when we allow our emotions to take over, we may become defensive or protective, which can hinder our ability to have a productive conversation. During these moments, it is important to take a step back and gather your thoughts; It is better to keep your calm and hold your tongue, rather than say something you might regret later. Assess your situation and determine how you arrived at that point. It's also important to recognize that no relationship is perfect and that disagreements are a natural part of any partnership. By remaining calm, open, and respectful, we can have productive conversations that help strengthen our connection with our partner.